This is the first time a man has inspired me to make a work of art. He was so evil (in my mind) that I was having a really hard time getting through my emotions. Keep in mind that my husband/best friend cheated on me after 14 years of marriage and spent the next 2 years of our marriage making me think there was something wrong with me. Complete, total, utter, pure betrayal. Divorced after 16 years.
I was at the gym. I am friendly and say “Hi” to people, but go to work out and don’t usually have lengthy conversations. The gym gets me for an hour per session.
I was on the elliptical. Ron starts talking to the gentleman working out next to me and is having a conversation with him. That is a good sign, it means that people like him and know him. He then starts to talk to me in front of his friend.
Ron; “Hi, I don’t know why I haven’t introduced myself before. My name is Ron.”
Me; “Hi, I am Linda.”
We go through an entire conversation in front of his friend and he asks if I would like to meet for a bite after workout. I agree, it is casual and not what I would call a date.
We are in the middle of lunch and great conversation, I am thinking; “WOW, this is going great!”
He then says; “I have to be honest with you, I am married.” (He asked me out in front of his friend at the gym! That was the last thing I expected.)
Me; “If you wanted to be honest with me, you would have told me before we met for lunch. How long have you been married?”
Ron; “35 years!”
I didn’t hear anything else he had to say.
I could hardly breathe. I do not go out with married men – he took that choice away from me. Then, I quickly looked around to see if anyone I knew saw me with a married man – that would be embarrassing and devastating to me.
All I could think was; “What a scum bag this guys is”. He has tortured his wife for 35 years. I am certain I am not the only woman he has ever approached.
He is a cheater, liar, and thief.
He cheats on his wife and family – 2 kids.
He lies to his family – super creepy!
Any money and/or time he spends on me or any other woman, he is stealing from his family.
I call it “People Math” and why would I want someone like that in my life?
I was so stunned, I just ate my meal and left. He tried to call and talk to me at the gym several times. I did not respond in any way. I should have stood up and left – I think I was in shock.
To get through this, I went to a local salvage yard and grabbed some random pieces to put together. I call it; “Junk Yard Dog” and it is hung over my bed.
* The ashtray is painted red and symbolized his mouth full of lies.
*The hose from an old kitchen sink represents his penis which is the only thing that concerns him.
*The nails sticking out are the pain he causes everyone around him.
*The radiator cap says “Caution” and the orange reflector are symbols for everyone to be careful.
*The dip stick is self explanatory.
*The cold, hard metal symbolizes his lack of heart, devotion, integrity, and humanity.