I met a couple who had been dating for approximately 8-9 months, Jack and Diane; both in their 50’s.
They were bickering and not shy about it. Diane wanted to vent and did. Apparently, Jack went on a date another woman, Jill. Diane found out about it because Jill contacted her to let her know. He had led Jill on for months.
Diane and Jill were both extremely hurt and rightly so.
Jack met Jill on Facebook. Jack claimed he thought Jill knew of his relationship, even though his Facebook page said he was “not in a relationship”. Jack repeatedly claimed it was a harmless meeting and that somehow he was oblivious to reality. Ridiculous and insulting.
Diane said something that really hit home to me; “I can only put up with the ‘Stupid Guy’ act so much.”
Oh, yes, I know – actions speak louder than words. He obviously did not care about her and just wanted to enjoy the perks of being in a relationship while trying to find “The One”.
I have thought about this encounter often and wondered how many times I have fallen for the “Stupid Guy” act because I wanted a relationship to work. It takes two and someone that doesn’t love you is going to continue to try to upgrade and treat you with disrespect. It’s unkind but true.
Women should not ignore the “Stupid Guy” act, it is HUGE.