Labor Day weekend.
I have been inundated with meeting requests on Match, must be the 3-day-weekend. So, I decided to make it a 4-date marathon; Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and Monday.
For the most part, they were all kind and I always have a good time meeting new and interesting people.
Friday – Jeff was age-appropriate and really a very nice man, polite and a little nervous. He listed his height as 5’11”. I am 5’3” and I was taller than him. I get that he misrepresented himself because I am doing the same thing about my age. We laughed and had a nice lunch. Every human being deserves kindness and respect.
Saturday – Jim was the same thing. Super nice guy and he was about 5’8” – I am figuring out they all put 5’11” because that must be the cut-off height women use for meeting men. Again, I get that. He says he eats a very healthy diet while he tells me how much he loves “Newks”. Don’t they microwave everything there? I have never been. He is painfully thin. I am not heavy but, he made me feel like a gorilla. My body would crush him.
Sunday – Rick, extremely nice man. He drove from Arlington to meet me. I always feel guilty when I realize they make a trip like that (20-minutes). He has a thick accent. I ask if he is Greek. He is Iranian. He was so nervous, his eyes starting ticking and twitching – blinking really fast. I tried to calm him; talking kindly and slowly – it helped. We ended up having a nice lunch and walking to the Gelato place close by.
Monday – Rob. First of all, he was inappropriately too young, 47. He was very persistent. Red flags started popping up all over the place. The last straw was the message I got Monday morning; “Horney?” I replied; “Ouch! Really? We have not met yet.” I gave him about 20 minutes to respond to that. I am sure he knew he was an idiot but was too immature to fix it. I don’t know how he would fix that anyway. I wrote back; “I am cancelling our meeting today. Good luck in your search.” What followed was a ridiculous, vile, immature rant which I ignored. That made him even angrier and he hit me with more nonsense about an hour later. I hope he is finished venting – I would never engage or respond to anyone who acts irrational. He does not have any of my personal information.
Things I have learned:
- In general, most people are really nice and just looking to find someone they click with.
- Some people are crazy and that is why it is important to stick with my rule of not giving out my personal information.
- This search is tedious and seems never-ending.
- I am not sure there is someone out there for me but, I will keep looking.