I met a nice man, Rick, about 4 weeks ago. I do not normally write about the nice men because it isn’t funny or as interesting as the odd men I meet.
This is an unusual man and my feelings are mixed up and jumbled.
We have met about 4 times for meals and to visit where we each live. It’s an on-line dating thing, seeing for sure that the person is who they say they are is easiest by seeing where and how they live. You know; not married, not a hoarder, not a serial killer –
We text throughout our day and talk daily on the phone.
Every human has pros and cons toward fitting into your life. I have also found that things which have been non-negotiable for one person somehow are okay with someone else. That’s where I am with this whole thing.
There are some things that I normally would not tolerate. He has been so kind and respectful of me that I just don’t care. He has had several opportunities to try to become intimate with me and I know he wants to but, he has been taking the time to get to know me as a person.
And, the chemistry. There is chemistry, just not the crazy “I want you now” chemistry. It’s more as if it’s building every time we are together; laughing, talking about our day, having a meal, or watching some nonsense on TV.
It has been so long since a man has been interested in anything other than getting laid, I’m a bit frightened. I know how to tell a creep to buzz off; I have been doing it for years.
He has barely tried to kiss me. Small, mildly passionate kisses when we part – just enough to keep himself out of the “friend zone”. This place is very safe and cozy for me but, I know that will not last. We will both want more.