I used to be afraid of confrontation or maybe just insecure about saying what I felt or wanted. I would use my husband/boyfriend to state my feelings. I think some women use their children as well – kids are great for breaking appointments last-minute.
If I was uncomfortable saying “No”, I would say; “I will ask (or talk to) my husband”.
I am single now and a little more mature. Certainly not afraid to say “No” or that I need time to think about something.
When I have a client or friend who use their partner to express their feelings, I know it is really what they want. I want to say; “I don’t care what he thinks, feels, or his opinion about it. Just tell me what YOU want!”
I once had a friend say; “What would Don think if you did that?” I laughed out loud. She just looked at me like I was crazy. I asked her why she would think I would care what he thought about anything I said or did. She could not answer.